Read an article the other day reviewing a book about poverty in America. It pointed out that our "welfare state," as a percentage of GDP, is second only to France's... but only if you include things like 529 benefits, child tax credits, homeowner subsidies, etc. A SALT deduction on your 1040 is every bit as much "welfare" as food stamps are, money being fungible, but we percieve the two very very differently as a society. And the well-off benefit far more; one statistic they highlighted was that in 2020 homeowners got $193B in subsidies (interest deductions and such) while low-income families only received $53B in direct housing assistance.
Point being, I guess, maybe take a hard look at your thoughts and perceptions and biases. If someone is working a full-time job at the $7.25/hr minimum wage they're making fifteen thousand a year before taxes. So they need to go on food stamps, "at our expense," and that's a bad thing? What about the CEOs of defense contractors who benefit from bloated contracts, also "at our expense?" What about the massive subsidies we pour into the oil and gas industry?
Personally I'm a lot less cut up about my tax dollars going to help lift a single teenage mother out of poverty than them going to line the pockets of Lockheed Martin execs.